Emotional dependence

I will employ to to please read patiently 

If our sense of worth comes primarily from our relationship /marriage, then we will be highly dependent on that marriage 

We become vulnerable to the mood and feelings, the behaviour and treatment of our spouse, or to any external event that may impinge on the relationship 

This is why many people makes such statements particularly ladies that "he is not making me happy", the reason why the other party is not making you happy is simply because you have placed your happiness on the relationship, your happiness is dependent on how smooth the relationship goes 

This is the root of heart breaks 

Don't you ever come into any form of relationship - be it marital or business wise with the mindset that the other party will make you happy, the means your happiness will always be like Nepa light 😅😅

Your life is too precious to place your happiness on anybody, I have noticed that some ladies can't stay without being in a relationship because their happiness is based on the relationship 

How will you get into a relationship with me and be expecting me to make you happy

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This is because we are humans, there is always the tendency that we will always offend each other ,you see some people, when they are having fracas in their relationship, everybody will know through their expression, some you will know through their what'sapp status 

They are Babbie's that are not emotionally matured 

Let's stop this westernised culture of relationship and marriage, how will you be telling a lady or a guy that you can't do without them, seriously? 

You hear this statement 

I am incomplete without you.                                  I can't do without you.                                              I have not heard your voice since morning so I couldn't eat😂😂😂

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Be sincere with yourself, before this relationship, have you not been living?  

You must build emotional balance to the point where by you don't feel lost or incomplete without your partner, you are already becoming a slave to that your emotions in that relationship 

Many people's self esteem is based on what people say about them or do  about them

This is  my counsel to someone out there :  never enter a relationship without being happy as a person 

Ask yourself - am I happy?  If the answer is no, then you are advised not to start any relationship 

It takes two complete and whole people to make a  marriage work 

It takes two happy people to make it work, because when you are not happy as a person, you will frustrate the effort of the second party-this cut across all forms of relationship 

I hope this was helpful 

Long live Soglitz 🙌

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