15 Pro tips to find true love

1. Start praying for the right person.

Personally, I believe God is the greatest writer of love stories. If we allow Him to guide us in our love life, we can avoid falling for the wrong person. For this reason, I believe that praying for wisdom in this area can help a great deal.

2. Prepare to meet the one by reaching your highest potentials.

You want to end up with the best person, right? Well, ‘best’ is relative, since different people have different concepts of ‘best’. What you need to find is the person who can be best for you.

3. Make yourself attractive.

Let us face it. Before you can feel romantic love for a person, you get attracted first. Therefore, making yourself presentable can make it easier for your true love to find you.

4. Find out what you really want in a partner.

Creating a list of the traits that you want your true love to possess will help you assess what kind of partner would suit you, but bear it in mind that no one is perfect. 

5. Enlarge your circle of friends and acquaintances.

You get a higher chance of meeting your true love when you constantly meet new people.

6. Be with the right company.

Being at the right place and with the right kind of people will help you meet the right person for you. For this reason, be wise in choosing your circle of friends. Their environment determines the kind of person that surround them.

For instance, if you do not like the party-animal kind of partner, then avoid hanging out a lot with party-animal friends. Friends of the same feather flock together, remember?

7. Stop basing your standards on movies or novels.

Sorry to burst your bubble, but true love in real life is not as overwhelming as when a rich guy falls in love with a poor girl in movies or novels. Real persons in the real world are less grand than main characters in fiction.

 8. Do not focus on physical appearance.

Pure love is unconditional. That means you do not base it on how good looking a person is. Do not look for a handsome or beautiful face—it is just a bonus. Instead, look for a person whom you can be comfortable and secure sharing life with. Personality, character, and values should be your primary concern.

9. Find a person whose personality complements yours.

If partners have clashing personalities, the relationship could end because of ‘irreconcilable differences’. Therefore, it is best if your future partner has a personality that matches well with yours. Your personalities should be balanced.

What the other has should supplements what the partner lacks. For example, one of the couple may have brilliant business ideas, but s/he lacks the will power to take actions. His/her partner should have the determination and capabilities to turn those ideas into real business ventures.

10. Look for a person whose set of priorities is same with yours.

Aside from personality, priorities can also affect a relationship. If the couple do not share the same perception about what goes first, then it could create a big problem in the future. For instance, a husband may put family as first in his priority list, but if the wife is more of a career person, then they could have a hard time understanding each other.

11. Find someone who respects you.

It is not enough that a person makes you smile and feel loved. Look for a person who knows how to respect individuals regardless of their age, status, or relationship with him/her. Why is this important? A person who is sensitive to the rights and feelings of others is more likely to be selfless. That means s/he would be careful not to do anything that could hurt you. You are secure with this person.

12. Consider the judgment of your family or friends.

Before jumping into a relationship, it is better if you will introduce the person to your family and friends. The problem when you are in love is you are head over heels. You cannot think straight. For this reason, let the people close to you give you the pieces of their mind.

If your family or friends do not like the person you like, then you have to ask why. Try to see the individual from their point of view, and see if from there you are still eager to pursue the budding relationship.

13. Meet their family and friends.

You will only know the person better if they are in their natural habitat. That means when they are surrounded by the people close to them. Take time to meet their family and friends. Observe how they treat them, and vice versa.

If you see that there is a warm and comfortable relationship between the person and their loved ones, then it could mean they are good at treating them. If the relationship seems cold and distant, then it is something to think about.

14. Test it with time.

Nothing tests love better than time. After the attraction period, which usually lasts for a year, affection between couple is normally tried by conflicts due to the decreased excitement and showing differences. This dilemma could last for up to three years.

In the next years, the relationship could be boring and monotonous, because you have known each other and been together for a long time. That is why many are tempted to look for someone new. If your relationship survives and remains strong after all the years, then it must be real love.

15. Do not let your emotions cloud your decisions.

Like what I mentioned in the previous tip, you cannot think straight when you are in love. Remember, true love is beyond feelings. Do not immediately decide to accept a person into your life. You have to base your decision on many factors. You can refer to the previous tips, and see if the person fits the true love criteria.